Message From: echristian@webtv.net (Elizabeth Christian) Date: Wed, Aug 9, 2000, 6:37am To: Bettymbowen@aol.com Cc: echristian@webtv.net Subject: Who am I ...in terms of family ? My oldest daughter is Phoebe who is in her 40s and deaf. She is perfectly healthy and kind of "streeet" smart...went to the state school for the deaf, boarding since 5 years old, has been married and divorced twice, and has a son who is estranged and who won't have anything to do with us....a long sad story.

She lives in Rome Georgia and on what we call "supplementary social security" and in public housing. She is about to be evicted after 3 years for bad housekeeping, and I am taking off work today and tomorrow to go up there and see what I can do..probably not much.

My younger daughter, Eden, has been helping....she and her husband persuaded them to let her have an apartment there...and will be furious when she finds out.

I am going to see if I can promise them that I will come up every weekend...see if I can take half vacation days on Fridays to do it....If they evict her...if she has to come back to Atlanta there is not much for her to do but stay with me, I suppose in my one bedroom condo downtown. I have had my house rented for a number of years now...

Eden..youngest...37 this month..is married with 6 year old girl/boy twins who start first grade this month. Her husband does compuer contract work for the Centers for Disease Control, and she copyedits for the Atlanta Journal Constitution, our major (and only) big newspaper here...That means she works 3 nights a week. In theory she only works 25 hours a week, but usualy ends up working more, but picks up freelance stuff too.

There...my dirty linen....nice to have somebody to talk to I guess..

I am taking the bus up to Rome in a few hours and will go to the Public Housing Office ....and see what is to be done.

I don't have a car...strange for an American, I know....

I have a feeling that they will not listen to me...and wlil put her stuff out on the street....and she will basically be homeless ...unless she comes and lives with me....

My present concern..and has been for over a year now is..that I am 66, going on 67 I really should retire, but am not sure exactly what to do next. I am already drawing Social Security..they changed the law last April so that between 65 and 70 you could make as much of a salaryas you could, and still not have to forfeit social security amounts....

Have gotten out of shape physically, overweight...a lot of really bad habits....but mostly I cannot get a handl on what I can do after retirement and still maintain my self esteem.

....I should not be complaining...just made contact with two fomer high school friends from boarding school who I shortly after learned had life threatening cancer...the American friend...and a gal living in Oxford Eng who has had a stroke and may be placed in a nursing home...if this has not already happened.

Ah...Ebay...should I introduce you and your friends to this...their is a UK Ebay branch...it is an online auction system..... www.ebay.com

Give it a try.....

Am trying to think how I can get rid of all of these dolls....stuffed animals, etc....

Just haul them off to the Salvation Army, I suppose....That is what seems to happen to most of the unwanted stuff in our lives...or else they are put out on the street in garage sales..... So....

Still want to correspond. Makes me sound like rather a failure, doesn't it. I usually don't write this kind of stuff. E



Coming to terms with your life, Elizabeth

Maybe you need to just admit that

1. They really would like for you to leave Mercer. I learned from Diana that Liesa Marshall said she did not have the Ovid password, did not know about Loansome Doc..Diana explained it to her..and I was defensive with Diana....I have not gotten anywhere with Leisa......I really don't think that the staff likes me....I know Judith doesn't .... so, in awhile I will have really built up a big case of paranoia....and made myself feel awful..

2.So what do you have left ? You have Eden, but she is constantly criticizing you..probably doesn't really like you either...Well, now I wouldn't go that far....

3. The twins don't respect you anymore..call you "crazy grandma"....

4. That man in the elevator Monday asked if you know the e was going up to the PCAC...assumed someone who looked like you would not be going there....

So....all this adds up to really terribly, terribly low self esteem....

What are you going to do before time for the noon bus, Elizabeth ?

Start thinking about what it would be like for Phoebe to live here....Somehow it seems that this has always been coming....