CORRESPOND WITH GREG

   Saved message From: YogiBev@aol.com Date: Sat, Feb 19, 2000, 6:39pm (EDT-1) To: echristian@webtv.net Subject: Hello from Greg

It's GREG!

How marvelous that you found me - I don't have my own email yet, so please write or phone me and give me your phone number and address, so we can communicate more. Long see, no time. Where are you? Love, Esther Ann MacCready (507 Crane Blvd., Los Angeles, CA 90065)     323/225-6992

WE TALKED ON THE TELEPHONE AND I LEARNED THAT SHE IS TEACHING SPECIAL EDUCATION. SHE SEES HER SEVEN YEAR OLD TWIN GRAND DAUGHERS AS OFTEN AS POSSIBLE..WITH NOT EXPLANATION SHE SAID THEIR MOTHER HAD DIED WHEN THEY WERE THREE MONTHS OLD.

THEN A TRAGIC EMAIL FROM HER FRIEND BEV

   Message From: YogiBev@aol.com Date: Sun, Jun 4, 2000, 10:44pm To: echristian@webtv.net Subject: Hello from EstherAnn

EstherAnn has just gotten an email address:   EstherAnnMacC@webtv.net   (!)

She is getting a second phone line installed for it because the only phone jack in her new (cute) house is in the guest room, far away from her TV.

        She has SERIOUS cancer - lung and part of her spine. This was discovered very suddenly. Please send her some email - she wants to hear from you!       - Beverly Campbell

I EMAILED GREG AND THEN HEARD FROM HER A WEEK LATER

   Message From: EstherAnnMacC@webtv.net (EstherAnn MacCready) Date: Tue, Jun 13, 2000, 1:22pm (EDT-3) To: echristian@webtv.net (Elizabeth Christian) Subject: Re: Have you gotten your telephone and computer connected yet ?

Hi, Lizzie,

          We're slowly getting there.   This is a test. Will you receive my e-mail & be able to reply? Hope so.   What ever happened about that plethora of jobs, or did you retire to have fun? Travel? LA? Luv,EA

HER NEXT EMAIL WAS NOT QUITE THE SHOCKED IT MIGHT HAVE BEEN HAD NOT HER FRIEND BEV WARNED ME IN AN EMAIL

   Message From: EstherAnnMacC@webtv.net (EstherAnn MacCready) Date: Wed, Jun 14, 2000, 11:07pm (EDT-3) To: echristian@webtv.net (Elizabeth Christian) Subject: Re: Connecting, connecting...

So delighted uou turned me on to webtv. Still learning to use it. Really need it now I've been diagnosed with stage 3 lung cancer which has spread to some vertebrae & a lymph node - all during April and half of May I - and my useless HMO doctors - thought that shoulder pain ws a muscle pull! Yikes!

I've a new appreciation for things normal & boring & dull -oh to enjoy them again. Now I have to quit my job to get Medicare & can barely make it to my twins' separate 2nd grade classes to finish the ___Harry Potter___ (call that underlining) volumes I'm reading to them before school lets out. Reading Dr. Bernie Siegel, Hamilton Jordan and lots of jokes Beverly sends.

But I'll spare you.

Do keep me informed about your marvelous, interesting, successful & not at all boring life! Love,

Greg (sometimes those days jump up in dreams or memories & I relive even your stories - like the time you caught your hair on fire with the Christmas parade candle. That really impressed me. I warned the twins - so glad you escaped that trumatic exerience unscathed!)

CONTINUING ABOUT HER PLANS FOR TREATMENT

   Message From: EstherAnnMacC@webtv.net (EstherAnn MacCready) Date: Thu, Jun 15, 2000, 5:11am (EDT-3) To: echristian@webtv.net (Elizabeth Christian) Subject: Re: Connecting, connecting...

My, you're up early! Same here. Big day today. Mother's here & she called my cuz the magician . We're meeting him at LAX (he local airport). Hope he pulls something good out of hat.

We got lost in the woods, right?   Out of bounds and off the trail -was there a trail?   Fred found us? We almost got expelled? What in the world story did we create? Please remind me. Nine of us graduated-all but poor Pat Reynolds who got preggers on christmas vacation some sailor?

I have to quit my job to get Mediare because I didn't sign up for Part B on my birthday or during the first 3 months of 2000. Figured I was healthy & kpt employee group heath plan' which turns out to be terrible if you actually get sick.

Now I"d have to wait till the first 3 months of next year to enroll & thus be able to go to a specialist at Cedar-Sinai or, say, Sloan Kettering instead of Kaiser Permanente, which is overworked, understaffed and aware of the fact that it's much cheaper for them if I kick off now - way before I'm ready`if one ever is...believe me, you´re much better keeping Part B to cover Dr. fees -gives you lots more options should you need them which I sincerely hope you won´t. Have a superfunday enjoying every little rosesmell. Luv, G.

IN THE END GREG DID NOT MAKE IT. SHE LEFT A BRIEF AUTOBIOGRAPHY WHICH BEV FORWARDED TO ME AND WHICH I EDITIED AND SENT TO BARLOW (PHYLLIS) HENDRIX FOR USE BY ST. MARY'S

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From: echristian@webtv.net (Elizabeth Christian) Date: Mon, Oct 2, 2000, 6:09am (EST+1) To: sherwood3239@hotmail.com Cc: echristian@webtv.net Subject: Greg's autobiography I now wonder about Greg's bird photographs...about her thesis/novel..... It is so terribly sad....the plans she had for the twins.... Another email follows...copy of my letter to Bev, who would like to be in touch with you.... A native of Tennessee, and daughter of a Presbytterian father and long time National Red Cross executive, Esther Ann MacCready graduated from St. Mary's School in 1951. She had entered in elementary school and was active in all school activities. Esther Ann was knowns as "Greg" as she was known during high school yeay as many of the class of 1950 and 1951 selected new names. In 1949/50 she roomed with Zaca (Virginia Johnston) and Andree (Sandra Davis) in All Angels in St. Elizabeth's. It is probably not generally realized the extent to which St. Mary's prepared the girls of the "silent generation" for an activitis role in the 1960's and 1970's but Greg's life work grew out of this liberal education. As so many of her generation, Greg's formal education spanned 3 decades. She received her BA in 1960 and her MA in 1987 and in the interim resideded for short periods in Spain and the middle East. She has left a short outline of her career, written when she knew that she might not survive the year: Her interest in Greenwich Village was likely sparked by tales that Sandra Davis - Andreee - brought back after spending summers in the Village with her grandmother. It was the same time frame that Father Flye too was spending his own summers there in regular contact with James Ageee. Greg wrote : " I was motivated by love of adventure to head straight for New York City and Greenwich Village after a year at Wilson College. The Beatnik folksong poetry scene was my nighttime route, though I held a day job at G.E. uptown for a while. Then I got a night job as a camera girl at Birdland, I fell in love with a writer and accompanied him to Majorca, where we stayed with his patron, Robert Graves. It was great: not working, reading and writing poetry for small magazines, but we couldn't afford to stay in Spain. Robert (in lieu of supporting us) helped us get grants and scholarships back in the U.S. We drifted apart." [Greg married Kevin on her return to the US. They settled in New York City for a time and Greg's daughter Elizabeth was born. As was the case with so many of so many of her generation, the marriage did not last.] "It took me eight years and a lot of part time jobs, but I finally got a Bachelor's degree in 1960. I had learned that people with more education did better in life than those with less. My first real job was at Princeton University. (I still wanted so much to be part of Daddy's Alma Mater.) However, even with my major in history and minor in French, I was still just a secretary and, by now, a single mom. Finally, through friends, and because I had worked briefly at the Bureau of Applied Social Research at Columbia University in New York, I got a job as a research assistant at Educational Testing Service (ETS), and put in a couple of decades of hard work in Princeton trying to raise my little girl, as well as participating in the political life of the country.   I felt that if the country became fascist, my life would be in vain.                  I ran the Eugene McCarthy campaign in the Princeton-Trenton region, and was quoted in the New York Times as being "elated" when he won the New Hampshire primary. But what a terrible year 1968 turned out to be: my beloved father died, as well as Martin Luther King and Bobby Kennedy. Johnson resigned, I voted for Dick Gregory, and Nixon got in. I ran the New Mobilization Committee to End the War in Vietnam, and was a marshal at the demonstration in Washington, D.C., when the news of the killings at Kent State boomed across the air waves.                 Just before Nixon abolished the Office of Education and most of our grants dried up, I got funded to study the education of Tuareg children in the Hoggar Mountains of the central Sahara Desert. I had already worked on the Longitudinal Study of Disadvantaged Children with Coleman, from which Head Start was born.   When I got back from Africa, ETS gave me a year to find another job. At this point I, like many other activists, sold my house and retreated to my cabin in the country. I didn't make Nixon's enemies list, but he and his Attorney General really scared me, as had the other McCarthy in the 1950's.                 From my cabin I did freelance photography, mostly of birds, and some writing for the local Historical Society. By now my daughter was in college in Vermont, and she suggested I apply to Goddard College for admittance to the M.A. Program, which I did, receiving my M.A. in English in 1987.   As I told my colleagues, "If this novel I've written for my thesis doesn't make me a million dollars, at least I'll be able to teach in a community college."   This was true, but Clinton Community College, in Plattsburgh, New York, made me an adjunct instructor, teaching English Literature in the Inmate Higher Education Program at a maximum security prison near the Canadian border. This job provided no benefits, no chance for advancement, and no insurance!                 My daughter had moved to Los Angeles, married a Winnebago Indian and urged me to come here. In 1990 I arrived, and found work as a substitute teacher for the Los Angeles County Office of Education.   Her twins were born and she died three months later, in 1992. Since then I've been "Mama" all over again. They are in the Gifted and Talented program.                 Now my life may be ending. I am in terrible pain, and the x-rays show a "mass" in at least one of my lungs. I have to wait two weeks for the M.R.I., and two weeks more for the results. Then the biopsy... then what? Meantime, I have learned (through this dramatic "learning episode") not to smoke.   I am eating loquats and drinking tea from their leaves, because my friends, the Japanese Buddhist monks, say these cure cancer. The future is very uncertain, but if I take and pass this course, National University has assured me that my CL469 will be signed, so I'll of keeping my job as a teacher next year. After that, if I am still alive, I think I'll retire and try for some of that happiness which Sheehy found that many elderly women enjoy. [Greg included two sentences that were prophetic for the women who graduated from St. Mary's in the 1950's} "There were lots of things I thought I couldn't do back then. I never dreamed of being a doctor, or President. " [Are women graduating from St. Andrew's now leavin school with higher expectations ?}

THIS IS WHAT SHE ACTUALLY WROTE

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From: beverly@mediabase.premrad.com (Campbell, Beverly) Date: Wed, Sep 27, 2000, 9:01am (EST-2) To: echristian@webtv.net Cc: sherwood3229@hotmail.com Subject: Esther Ann's autobiography   Dear friends -           In the last few years, I typed virtually all of Esther Ann's correspondance and graduate research papers on my computer. I have a large file of her stuff. I thought that you would enjoy these gems...         - Beverly Campbell Esther Ann MacCready             Living on Loquats IL643 - 5/11/2000                 I was born to a beautiful young country girl my sweet daddy married (to his mother's chagrin) during the Great Depression, in Tennessee. She didn't want me. She wanted a boy, and wouldn't look at me for four days because I wasn't one. We were both pretty disappointed over that as the years and opportunities slipped by. For instance, I couldn't go to Princeton, as Daddy had done, because of my sex. There were lots of things I thought I couldn't do back then. I never dreamed of being a doctor, or President. I figured I could maybe marry one, but never worked to hook an eligible man. I chose the rebel route instead. I grew up fast and wild, graduating from high school at age sixteen.   I got kicked out of the sedate girls' college to which I was then sent because the dean objected to my affair with the married and very liberal sociology professor. Now I know it was statutory rape, but back then it was somehow deemed to be my fault. I was motivated by love of adventure to head straight for New York City and Greenwich Village. The Beatnik folksong poetry scene was my nighttime route, though I held a day job at G.E. uptown for a while. Then I got a night job as a camera girl at Birdland, which kept me talkin' trash till early every morning, until I finally couldn't get to work on time or at all. I began a long history of pot smoking, so everything got funny but foggy for decades. I fell in love with a Black writer and accompanied him to Majorca, where we stayed with his patron, Robert Graves. It was great: not working, reading and writing poetry for small magazines, but we couldn't afford to stay in Spain. Robert (in lieu of supporting us) helped us get grants and scholarships back in the U.S. We drifted apart. It took me eight years and a lot of part time jobs, but I finally got a Bachelor's degree in 1960. I had learned that people with more education did better in life than those with less. My first real job was at Princeton University. (I still wanted so much to be part of Daddy's Alma Mater.) However, even with my major in history and minor in French, I was still just a secretary and, by now, a single mom. Finally, through friends, and because I had worked briefly at the Bureau of Applied Social Research at Columbia University in New York, I got a job as a research assistant at Educational Testing Service (ETS), and put in a couple of decades of hard work in Princeton trying to raise my little girl, as well as participating in the political life of the country. I felt that if the country became fascist, my life would be in vain.                 I ran the Eugene McCarthy campaign in the Princeton-Trenton region, and was quoted in the New York Times as being "elated" when he won the New Hampshire primary. But what a terrible year 1968 turned out to be: my beloved father died, as well as Martin Luther King and Bobby Kennedy. Johnson resigned, I voted for Dick Gregory, and Nixon got in. I ran the New Mobilization Committee to End the War in Vietnam, and was a marshal at the demonstration in Washington, D.C., when the news of the killings at Kent State boomed across the air waves.                 Just before Nixon abolished the Office of Education and most of our grants dried up, I got funded to study the education of Tuareg children in the Hoggar Mountains of the central Sahara Desert. I had already worked on the Longitudinal Study of Disadvantaged Children with Coleman, from which Head Start was born. When I got back from Africa, ETS gave me a year to find another job. At this point I, like many other activists, sold my house and retreated to my cabin in the country. I didn't make Nixon's enemies list, but he and his Attorney General really scared me, as had the other McCarthy in the 1950's.                 From my cabin I did freelance photography, mostly of birds, and some writing for the local Historical Society. By now my daughter was in college in Vermont, and she suggested I apply to Goddard College for admittance to the M.A. Program, which I did, receiving my M.A. in English in 1987. As I told my colleagues, "If this novel I've written for my thesis doesn't make me a million dollars, at least I'll be able to teach in a community college." This was true, but Clinton Community College, in Plattsburgh, New York, made me an adjunct instructor, teaching English Literature in the Inmate Higher Education Program at a maximum security prison near the Canadian border. This job provided no benefits, no chance for advancement, and no insurance! By this time, I was in my fifties, and needed dental work and job security!                 My daughter had moved to Los Angeles, married a Winnebago Indian and urged me to come here. In 1990 I arrived, and found work as a substitute teacher for the Los Angeles County Office of Education. Her twins were born and she died three months later, in 1992. Since then I've been "Mama" all over again. My relationship with my son-in-law is horrendous (i.e., death threats, etc.), but I've persisted and gotten the girls through their first eight years, seeing them almost every day, and providing care for them for weeks and months at a time, while their father is in jail, in love, or otherwise preoccupied. It is a stressful struggle, as he opposes everything I stand for, especially education. Even so, they are in the Gifted and Talented program.                 Now my life may be ending. I am in terrible pain, and the x-rays show a "mass" in at least one of my lungs. I have to wait two weeks for the M.R.I., and two weeks more for the results. Then the biopsy... then what? Meantime, I have learned (through this dramatic "learning episode") not to smoke. I am eating loquats and drinking tea from their leaves, because my friends, the Japanese Buddhist monks, say these cure cancer. The future is very uncertain, but if I take and pass this course, National University has assured me that my CL469 will be signed, so I'll of keeping my job as a teacher next year. After that, if I am still alive, I think I'll retire and try for some of that happiness which Sheehy found that many elderly women enjoy.

I WROTE TO MY PENPAL OF 2 YEARS CHARLES WEBB...HIS RESPONSE

   Message From: echristian@webtv.net (Elizabeth Christian) Date: Sat, Jun 17, 2000, 5:23am To: chw13@yahoo.ie (Charles Webb) Cc: echristian@webtv.net, ecchristian@dcemail.com Subject: At an outrageous hour

I was able to talk to my friend's mother when I called on the telephone....and learned that she is seeking treatment at Mount Saini Hospital....a good source. Here HMO doctor had been telling her to try hot and then cold presses for pain...no xray or other scan for diagnosis.....Incredible.

What is most amazing is that the way the Medicare works (she must have just turned 65)...you can only sign up for the Part B (doctor vs. hospital) part of Medicare at a certain time a year, and since she was still working she expected to use her regular work insurance...Kaiser Permenet HMO...well respected across the country....Now she has to quit her job it seems in order to get Part B...which pays medical and not just hospital.

Crazy this American system....

Mt. Siani in Los Angeles is where all the Hollywood stars go.....it is an excellent hospital.....she should get good treatment, and her mother is a feisty lady...

I had a chance to talk to my friend, who sounded in good spirits.

Now that she is into email...we will be able to stay in touch....I am so thankful.

She had a roommate who has lived in Oxford UK for many years....I believe her address is in our school directory, and I am going to make contact. Ironically Greg, the Oxford friend, and a third girl from Tennessee named Tucky Hardwick roomed together our last year...and Tucky long ago died of cancer.

Later, Elizabeth

Date:    Fri, Jun 16, 2000, 10:54pm (EDT-3) From:    Charles Webb Subject:    'twas I To:    Elizabeth Jackson 17-6-00

Oh dear. I appear to have sent you the same letter twice. I grow old, I grow old.

So this is more in the nature of a grovel - after your nice letter with sad news. We too have just lost our best friend from cancer.

We also have a dear cousin Charlotte in Salem NH who is making a gallant fight. Only met her through the Internet.

But definitely write to your friend. "A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver ". Like your mother's chicken soup it cures everything, or partly stops the ache. Charles.

IS SHE GOING TO FLORIDA TO SEEK TREATMENT ?

   Message From: EstherAnnMacC@webtv.net (EstherAnn MacCready) Date: Tue, Jun 20, 2000, 10:20pm (EDT-3)

To: echristian@webtv.net Subject: Move to Florida & Mayo Clinic in Jacksonville

So now I can be reached at Cousin Jimmy"s e-mail address, which is: jameses@freewwweb.com.

Ctopped by the Sisters of St. Mary on Monte Vista St., near me where I could never stop before because I always had a joint or a beer or both in my hand plus being in a rush -job kids the everlasting laundry-met a nice Filipino Sr. Virginia who told me Sr. kierra had just died last year, & that Sr. Lucy was in cgarge in Tennessee

I thought they closed St. Mary's in Sewanee but maybe it reopened or hey put it overin Nashvlle...These sisters (she & Elizabeth) are in a barrio alone with a lovely garden, house, and chapel - across form the Episcopal Church which has services in Spanish.   Should you want to write them, they are at: SAINT MARY'S CONVENT, 5608 Monte Vista Street, Los Angeles, CA 90042

GREG'S EMAIL GOT ME BACK LOOKING OVER OUR MUTUAL PAST AT ST MARY'S AND ALSO PICKING UP ON AN IDEA THAT HAD OCCURRED TO ME BEFORE. NOW THIS IS SOMETHING THAT MIGHT REALLY INTEREST WAYNE URBAN GIVEN HIS STRONG INVOLVEMENT IN THE EPISCOPAL CHURCH AND MORE SPECIFICALLY EDUCATION AND THE EPISCOPAL CHURCH

   Message From: echristian@webtv.net (Elizabeth Christian) Date: Wed, Jun 21, 2000, 10:28am To: jameses@freewwweb.com Cc: echristian@webtv.net Subject: So...here is the real web site http://corl.homepage.com/csms.html I also found the web site for the school in Memphis...you would never know that they had had any connection with the Sisters...all very private school, nondemonimationalish.

I worked on a history of ed doctorate....years and years..thought having a PhD might help my library career, and when I took a foundations class got hooked.

Was an "ABD" twice...and now it seems silly to go back...they would make me do all the course work again (I actually sat through philosophy of ed and history twice with the same fac...but then history went on a a bit more Plato never hurt anyone I suppose)...

It would be neat to give it another shot in retirement..I am really interested in history.... St. Mary School would make a great dissertation topic...and looks like it could take some doing. With the leisure of retirement I could go to Peekskill...check our archives...

I can't seem to leave my "undones" alone... http://corl.homepage.com/csms.html

The site again.

You know, I could write AndRee, Sara Dudley is alway around, and do an unofficial renunion page....outside the confines of fundraise St. A....

My daughter Eden, may just be doing the web page for her high school reunion in 81.... Later, Elizabeth


Moving on

JUNE 22, 2000

I FIND MYSELF NOW PUTTING BACK THE PIECES, WHERE PEOPLE ARE, AND FOR THE SECOND TIME EMAILED ANDREE'S HUSBAND ANDRE TO INQUIRE HOW TO GET IN TOUCH WITH HER..HOPING, SURELY SHE IS ON EMAIL. THE RESULT A FAIRLY CRYPTIC

   Message From: Trevathans@aol.com Date: Thu, Jun 22, 2000, 1:55pm To: echristian@webtv.net Subject: Re: Another try... I forwarded yours of the 21st June to Abdullah and Jeremy. Stand by, please.

Regards, Andre

THEN THIS EMAIL FROM ACROSS THE ATLANTIC

AN EMAIL FROM JEREMY....THIS MAY BE AN EXPLANATION OF WHY HIS FATHER WAS SO CAUTIOUS ABOUT RESPONDING TO ME. SANDRA MUST HAVE HAD A STROKE

   Message From: Jeremy.Trevathan@btinternet.com (Jeremy Trevathan) Date: Fri, Jun 23, 2000, 7:25am (EDT+5) To: echristian@webtv.net (Elizabeth Christian) Subject: Sandra Davis

Hello Elizabeth-

Your email was forwarded by my father. I'd be delighted to forward any messages to my mother, Andree, so do let me know. I have a feeling yours was one of the messages that were forwarded to her from the St Mary's reunion.

When I read out all the messages she definitely remembered who was who!

Physically she's well, but the doctors are not happy to allow her to go home on her own as they fear for her safety. She has very bad short-term memory which seems to have affected her reaction to danger such as hot kettles or heating elelments etc. It's also affected her speech somewhat and she struggles to get out what she wants to say.

However, in many other ways she's 'all there'. Her sense of humour is fine. Her long term memory is good too. We're also very keen to make sure she's involved in all the decisions that we're taking for her care. The frustration for her now is that we probably must look to put her in residential care for the time being, while the doctors ascertain whether the brain damage she sustained will improve enough over time for them to feel confident about her being at home, even with visiting carers.

At the moment they feel she must have 24 hour care, in case of problems.

We're also working to see if any of her friends might agree to live and care for her for a period at home, as this would probably be the best option in the short-term, although it's also an incredible burden and sacrifice to ask someone to make - hence looking for 'homes' too.

Anyway do let me have any messages for her and I'll pass them on. I next visit her on Sunday.

Regards Jeremy Trevathan

   Message From: echristian@webtv.net (Elizabeth Christian) Date: Fri, Jun 23, 2000, 3:17am

To: Jeremy.Trevathan@btinternet.com (Jeremy Trevathan) Cc: echristian@webtv.net Subject: Thank you so very much for writing.

I am up at an outrageous hour of the morning, but feel I must answer you. I as at St Marys with your mother for the last two years or high school. I had written her at her London address when I did a job swap at London Guildhall U in 1997 and had hoped to visit her, but I only had a call left on my answering machine. My exchange partner's voice was still there, so she may not have known she had reached me and did not leave a number.

I don't know that you need to tell her this, but I made contact with her close friend Greg..Esther Ann MacCready..we exchangeD cards, calls several times early this year...and now...she has just gotten on email..but has also been diagnosed with cancer.

Again, I am wondering if I really should tell her about your mother at this time.

Where do you all live ? Are you in the US or still in London. Don't you also have a brother...and were't there some twins there somewhere. Greg and I both have twin grandchildren...

Please send me some more details.

I look forward to hearing from you. Elizabeth

I THOUGHT THAT I WOULD GO AHEAD AND SEE IF I COULD START A CORRESPONDENCE WITH SANDRA/ANDREE THAT JEREMY MIGHT BE ABLE TO EITHER READ HIMSELF OR LEAVE FOR SOMEONE ELSE TO READ..MY FIRST LETTER

   Message From: echristian@webtv.net (Elizabeth Christian) Date: Fri, Jun 23, 2000, 10:55am

To: Jeremy.Trevathan@btinternet.com (Jeremy Trevathan) Cc: echristian@webtv.net

Subject: Dear Sandra, Andree..what shall we call each other ?

This is Lizzie, a nickname I really never liked very much, so let's just stay with Elizabeth, OK ? I have just made contact with Jeremy and he said that he will be visiting you later this week and can take messages.

A short letter bringing you up to date on my life for the past 35 years is a bit daunting, but can be done I believe, as I have been working at the same institution for this entire time and have lived in the same city.

I am Associate Director of the Swilley Library serving graduate and professional schools here at Mercer in Atlanta. I had been librarian at Mercer's pharmacy school for many years, so with the merger about 10 years ago was folded in the staff. I have managed two job swaps in the past three years, one at London Guildhall University in the East End, and the second last year at Waikato Polytechnic in Hamilton New Zealand.

My youngest daughter lives in Atlanta with her husband and five year old twins, and I see them as much as I can, but as they grow older I am needed far less than I was when they were babies and I provided a lot of direct care.

We are about to do a camping trip in Michigan and I will come back by Chicago for the American Library Association meeting. Have been assigned a Jamacia librarian to help host. I will be staying in a hostel where they have reserved a section for librarians coming to the meeting. It should be fun.

I am trying to figure out retirement, but at this point would like to continue 2 more years, until we have merged the nursing school that we are absorbing. A real sense of "been there, done that" as we did a similar merger when we moved.

I WROTE THIS TO JEREMY IMMEDIATELY AFTER I WROTE THE POSSIBLE SAMPLE LETTER TO ANDREE

   Message From: echristian@webtv.net (Elizabeth Christian) Date: Fri, Jun 23, 2000, 11:08am To: Jeremy.Trevathan@btinternet.com (Jeremy Trevathan) Cc: echristian@webtv.net Subject: Letters to your mother

I have just sent a letter to you that might be appropriate for your mother. You need to let me know. If I continue a kind of "letter of the week"..and I am really into penpalling...then I need to know what she really would enjoy.

You mentioned her long term memory. Talking about the past ? How I posed for an nude portrait that she painted after coming back from the Village one summer and having studied art...Whatever happened to Bill Anderson ....What All Angels really seemed like to me..actually it blew me away...I alway thought a MacCarthy, Group type book, called "Detour through All Angels"...would be something ....the redhead, blonde, and brunette..so terribly sophiticated at fifteen, sixteen...They had lifter a "Detour" sign off some road and it was part of the decor...with a Confederate flag, a tennis racket, and a hoopskirt....

Those were the days when we were racially consious, and there was and your grandfather, or possibly Tucky's grandfather arranged for a black combo for our senior dance...and the local Indian ..native American, indigenous people, what have you...protested, because they saw them as competition..any blacks as competiton ..,,for work (they hired blacks at the University...ask your father)...and Sister Christabel was in the position of a real labor problem..they could not run the school withou these mountain people..

Ah, the plot thickens with Mother Superior at Peekskill...knowing only about the South as a Britisher, naturlaized American citizen and living in the land of abolition....

And there was a short story your mother wrote..wonder what happened to it...This was 1951...a girl goes to a college, presumably a 7 sisters type place...unexpectedly finds herself with a black roommate..who also brought a teddy bear...then with not explanation the roommate has withdrawn from school..and the teddy bear is in the trash. Given the events that were to follow in the US....or even now...that is a wonderfully vivid image..and drawn by a sixteen year old.

Or is this kind of thing appropriate for your mother now ?

As you cope with issues of care this may seem terribly frivilous....

Elizabeth

SO A CORRESPONDENCE SEEMS TO BE BEGIHNNING

   Message From: Jeremy.Trevathan@btinternet.com (Jeremy Trevathan) Date: Fri, Jun 23, 2000, 11:46pm (EDT+5) To: echristian@webtv.net (Elizabeth Christian) Cc: echristian@webtv.net Subject: Re: Letters to your mother

Dear Elizabeth-

I hate to tell you but I spoke to mom on the phone this afternoon and told her I'd had an email from 'Elizabeth Christian' and she immediately said 'Lizzie'...I will tell her that it's not appropriate anymore!

Thank you so much for your emails today. I will pass them on to her. I found them very moving myself...I think she's fine for most of this. She needs mental stimulation as much as possible, even if it's bad news...

If you can see your way to a penpally letter a week I will try and get her to sit down and dictate responses and even write them! I asked her the other day if she had had any writing therapy and she gave me a dirty look and said 'of course not'...and then proceeding to write very carefully on a blank page 'Dear Jeremy, Poo to you'.

Anyway, Elizabeth thank you for your kind thoughts and gestures, I appreciate then hugely and I know mom will too. They're definitely not frivolous, mom's sense of humour is very intact and she hates pomposity...

Regards Jeremy

PS I live in west London near Shepherd's Bush and my brother Steve (now Abdullah, he converted about 15 years ago!) lives nearer to Oxford, where mom is, in a place called Chesham. There are indeed twins...my brother's children by his first relationship in Holland. Numi and Sjoert (girl and boy) are now in their 20s...

WRITING TO MY FLORIDA PENPAL I BEGAN FLESHING OUT THE BACKGROUND

   Message From: echristian@webtv.net (Elizabeth Christian) Date: Sat, Jun 24, 2000, 10:07am To: dogb@webtv.net (BJ) Cc: echristian@webtv.net Subject: Online people...

Well, now I actually have all three of them...Andree, Greg, and Zaca...Sandra, Esther Ann, and Virginia...in a way together....I found there was a great email site for alumni where we went to school..

Actually the school closed in the early 60s but the alum were absorbed by a near by Episcopal boy's school and they are really stron on alum stuff....And there was Virgnia/Zaca.

I wrote them up as a freshman composition when I was in college..the image was so with me. They were total sophisticaion..even at 15, 16 years old.

Blond, redhead, and brunette....They had renamed themselves...something I should have done before classmates stuck me with Lizzie...which THEY still remember.

We were in a boarding school..very like Dead Poets Society...operated by Episcopal nuns...and had a fantastic big dorm..St. Elizabeth's with a view in the back of the Tennessee mountains...and valley.."the Bluff"...and when I first saw them they were probably each sitting on beds in their big dorm room All Angels (the rooms were all named for saints)..They had a record player and seemed to be always playing "Bluebird of Happiness"...I have a picture of them looking out the window at other classmantes on horseback..for the school did have horses...(In fact we had an insructor who had recencly come from riding with the circus...lady with incredibe posture..probably felt a bit strange in this environment..but it was a job..)

I could go on and on... But now here is Greg facing cancer and Andree with

what was probably a stroke..

Her son (I found his entire bio on the net..he wrote for an alum thing at Emanual college...seems to have ben there when that fellow how created the WWWeb was there..his bio is there too)...so I know a lot about him..as I do his father because of an item posted about some kind of heroic thing he did in Puerto Rico...)....

Well, not name dropping...but the son seems to have been doing some important editing ...is with MacMaillan....

In any case I wrote a letter to Andre, he read it to her on a visit and things that a weekly letter might be a good idea....

Seems she could withdifficulty write a sentence... I don't know if she used computers and email before her stroke...surely she did.... And would that not be something someone could do... Going back to Medline to look for more articles and experts...

I actually wrote the British National Library reference services to see if someone at the public library in Oxford would contact me...would they make house/institution calls...to help a person recovering from stroke access the net...an information activitiy...Let's see what happens. .....Oh, and G,A,Z.....the later ended up living in the Village..and when a former roommate of mine...went to NY to attend summer school at NY University....she later said that to her in the Village..they seemed just as totally ...well "awesome" would be the word I suppose.... For they did end up there in their early 20s, though neither Greg or Andree had graduated from college.... Later, Elizabeth   

Message From: echristian@webtv.net (Elizabeth Christian) Date: Sat, Jun 24, 2000, 10:46am To: dogb@webtv.net Cc: echristian@webtv.net, ecchristian@dcemail.com Subject: Fwd: The Trevatan men

Have I already sent this to you ?

The story...Andree met Andre..when he was a student at the University of the South..also on the Mountain....there were 4 Episcopal institutions..the University, St. Mary's, St. Andrew's, Sewanee Military Academy. We had a relationship with St. A...had regular "Sunday tea dances"...exchanges for major dances...there were 2 each season one at each school...

Well, we ordinarily did not date University or SMA boys, but Andre was planning to become an Episcopal priest, and would come with the St. A. priests to be an acolyte for mass...so because of the name similarity Andree met Andre and they were dating the last semester before we graduated.

Andree was a truly brilliant student...really, really bright...and went to Bryn Mawr. (My mother sent me to Alabama State College for Women..which now I realize was really not much different from the "seven sisters"...and actually Vassar was modeled in the early days after a college in Winchester Tennessee whicih my great great aunts and later my grandmother attended..but this is another story.)....and kept dating Andre who would make the trek up from Tennessee to Pennsylvania....

By 1952 Andre was really to enter the Episcopal theology seminary in NYC...and the rule then was that you could enter if married, but could not marry while in school. Antiquated...but supposedly that was how they did things.

So...Andree and Andre were married in a marvelous ceremony..on St. Thomas the Doubters Day ...in a very expensive elaborate ceremony in her home town of Cleveland Tennessee (her parents owned a hosiery mill)...Greg and I both went...but I stayed with another classmate, Tucky Hardwick (Hardwick Stove family ..yet another story)..and really never saw any of the bridal party....

The color scheme was green and red for Christmas, and she had only one attendant...a cousin named Chase, who I recalled had actually taken the Greek exam as part of her SATS....

Andree finished the year at college, and then fall 1953 became a theological faculty wife....and before the year was out had son number one...this Jeremy who is our intermediary.

She studied bagpipe, recorder...took the babies back to the Mountain to show them off to the nuns.

I saw here several times in NYC during the next 7 years, as various things took me there....

They got a posting to St. Luke's there in the Village after Andre graduated..and then went to Puerto Rico. We exchanged regular Christmas cards, the occasional letter over these years...

There was another boy, Stephen...

who now appears to be a convert to Muslim...and also produced a pair of twins (that makes me, Greg, and Andree all grandparents to twins)...with a partner form the Netherlands...

Something happened in Puerto Rico...the marriage came apart..and Andree remarried someone that I believe had some Greek connection, or nationality and Andree and the boys settled in England in the 60s.... I often wondered if she stayed in England to keep them out of Vietnam...

In her early 40s she wrote to me "Is this all there is ?"..... I suppose it was that hitting forty, no longer looking 25, and not quite having the prospects ahead you had expected.

I understood that after her parents died she had a position with their business...but don't know what happened there. So......lots to fill in.

I followed up these links..there were photos of Andre and new wife Carol...

You, know though..there was a moment that Greg and I shared..way back when we first met Andre...I remember it vividly because we were sitting on a sofa in a parlor of the big house the nuns lived in ...and after speaking for a bit with Andre as he waited for Andree..shared with each other that he did not seem so "intellectual"..I suppose..something like that...as we would have expected.

I think we were really all ...well terribly sophiticated....Well, not ME...but they were..worldly .... What happened,

Why did things go so wrong...

Had we been living now would be have gone into the professions and not just married..out lives been quite different ?

Wow...I hope you don't end up knowing somebody who is related to these people. It is such a very small world really.... Elizabeth

Delivered-To:    echristian@mailsorter-bryant.bryant.webtv.net From:    echristian@webtv.net (Elizabeth Christian) Date:    Fri, Jun 23, 2000, 3:41am To:    echristian@webtv.net Cc:    ecchristian@dcemail.com Subject:    The TrevatHan men

Jeremy Trevathan (1972-1977)jeremy.trevathan@btinternet.com After I left Emanuel I went to the University of Hull and later did postgraduate work in Oxford at the Polytechnic. I took up a career in book publishing and have worked at Penguin, Oxford University Press, Blackwells and Time-Life. I'm now the Publisher at Macmillan, publishing authors such as Jackie Collins, Wilbur Smith and Minette Walters on our fiction list, and Chris Patten, Roy Jenkins and Hugo Young on our non-fiction list - an eclectic range of tastes which I'm sure was germinated in my time at Emanuel! When I was at Emanuel I was incredibly involved in both rowing and the choir, but have subsequently lost 'the bug' in both. However, I was moved to locate the web site by a trip this afternoon (30/1/99) to the boat house, which has triggered off many fond memories http://home.earthlink.net/~truebadour/eng-trevathan.html

Wow, a complete biography..no mention of Sandra...or exactly who this "son" is. Didn't they have 2 ?

Andre Trevathan...protester in Puerto Rico http://www.justus.anglican.org/stsams/photo/Sarum97.html

Check out the photograph.

http://andromeda.rutgers.edu/~lcrew/legcoms1.html http://csf.colorado.edu/cohousing/apr97/0113.html

He signed a petition

http://justus.anglican.org/stsams/photo/ANGphotos.html http://www.dioceseofnewark.org/GC97/miscgrps.html

He shows up twice in this directory page

http://www.dioceseofnewark.org/GC97/depsall.html

One of over 1000 of the Episcopal House of Delegates

http://www.justus.anglican.org/stsams/photo/GenCon1_July97/GenCon_the_first.html

Here he is with wife Carol having a bit of fun with some Episcopal colleagues http://www.andromeda.rutgers.edu/~lcrew/uso.html More directory stuff    Message From: Jeremy.Trevathan@btinternet.com (Jeremy Trevathan)

Date: Sat, Aug 12, 2000, 5:02pm (EDT+5) To: echristian@webtv.net (Elizabeth Christian) Subject:

Thanks again...

You're probably right about postcards now! I've become so used to email I've forgotten about the normal channels! You can write to Mom (Sandra Sinclair) at 119 Charles Street Oxford OX4 3AX UK Regards Jeremy


PHYLLIS HETRICK ENTERS

   Message From: echristian@webtv.net (Elizabeth Christian) Date: Wed, Jun 28, 2000, 6:08am To: treetops@care2.com (phyllis hetrick-bennett) Cc: echristian@webtv.net Subject: It is wonderful being back in touch

I have been in touch with Jeremy Trevethan. He read a letter from me to his mother and she immediately exclained "Lizzie". She is writing with some difficulty which is encouraging.

Eden Bird gave me an account of the successful alumni meeting and I was very interested to hear about your video photography. I really enjoy candid photography and would be interested in seeing some of your work. I am a year past "traditional" retirement, but spent last year trying to figure out "retirement" with no success. I think I will give it two more years.

Things are happening so quickly in librarianship, it is so exciting. Ebooks and netLibrary are the newest wrikles. Georgia is leading the country in providing citizens free subscriptios though lottery strong university and public library system. I will probably continue in some volunteer form after retirement.

I recently got an email about a program in Cuba in the spring that focuses on have information professionals go into third world countries to help them jumpstart their own programs. It seems to be a group whose focus is ending economic sanctions for Cuba, but I really agree with that. I had gone as far as a Peace Corps nomination year before last, but had second thought when I was not really clear as to how they might assign me.

I appreciate the offer of a place to stay. In return, I want you to know that two years ago I purchased a downtown condo with the idea that friends and relatives could come and enjoy a week right downtown...walk to 3 sports venues, 5 theatres, MARTA to "shop till you drop" heaven at Phipps and Lenox Plazas..and take in the King and Carter centers. Parades start here, right below my window. and run from the Peachbowl to last weekend's Gay Pride parades...

So...if are every interested. I am staying here myself, but can just go stay with my daughter and my visitor has total privacy. More later.

Thursday I traveling north in their van with my daugher and five year old g/b twins to Michigan and will come back by the American Library Association meeting.

If you want to see any of my photos...check out www.photopoint.com and my emails to entere are

echristian@webtv.net

and

lbecj@twk.ac.nz

(my email address from my last year's New Zealand library job exchange.)

Best wishes, Elizabeth

Delivered-To:    echristian@webtv.net X-Version:    caremail 6.0 .3433.0 From:

   "phyllis hetrick-bennett" Date:    Tue, Jun 27, 2000, 7:27pm (EDT-1) X-Priority:    Normal To:    echristian@webtv.net Subject:    Re: Wow, Phyllis...wow,indeed

Dear Lizzie,                                     your message delights me more than I can say. How could I forget YOU?? It's true, as the cocktail napkin saying goes, "Of all the things I've lost, I miss my mind the most," but YOU, and Andree and Greg and all of you, esp. the cast of "Taming of the Shrew," will be certainly one of the last memories to go.

                                  Many thanks for the bio and other info.   I'm on the run, so this is a short response. Fortunately, the Univ. library has computers for use by the public, but I don't get to town often.   Jack Bennett and I live on Sherwood Rd. a bit over 2 miles from the St. Mary's Lane junction. We purchased a fixer-upper stone house house on the bluff in 1988, though did not take permanent residence until Jan. '95 when I retired from EPA headqtrs. in DC after 18 years there.

                                    I'm so glad you're in touch with Greg; please send me her address. Are you aware that Andree had a stroke 2 months ago; was in coma for 3 weeks; still recuperating in hospital and will have to go to a nursing home because she probably will not be able to take care of herself. This latest news from Zaca on Sunday afternoon. Right now Zaca is in Conn. for this week , but will returnto her daughter Amy's home on Long Island.

                                  Both Betty Knox and Andree planned to be at the reunion in April, so we were doubly disappointed at their absence because of Betty's husband's illness and Andree's.

                                    I hope that every member of class of 51 will be in Sewanee next April. Now is the time to start planning.   You're welcome to use my home for your class party.                                                      

                               I will be in touch again. Love, Barlow http://www.care2.com - Homebase for people who care about the Environment!

GOOD NEWS ABOUT GREG FROM HER CALIFORNIA FRIEND

   Message From: YogiBev@aol.com Date: Sat, Jul 15, 2000, 10:54pm To: echristian@webtv.net Subject: EstherAnn Hello again...

        EstherAnn called me a couple of nights ago - she is at the Mayo Clinic. Going to start 8 wks of intensive radiation/chemotherapy to zap the cancer. She will be OK! This is going to work. She sounded strong and sound. (Hope that makes sense.) She just had two operations to remove cancer from her spine so that she will still be able to walk! It worked - she can wiggle her toes.

        I can forward messages to her - contact me at my work email:       beverly@mmr247.com I get email in real time at work; only check this every month or so.     EstherAnn asked me to contact you so you can send her love and energy. She is also quite fond of funny emails (so am I). Laughter IS the best medicine.

When I get back to my office on Monday, I will send you her cousin Jimmy's email so you can send her direct messages. He will take them to the hospital. Her family has been wonderfully supportive and she is quite positive. I can also forward email from you if you send it to my work email listed above.             Love, Light, etc....          Beverly Campbell             Beverly@MMR247.com

   Message From: echristian@webtv.net (Elizabeth Christian) Date: Sun, Jul 16, 2000, 3:22pm To: jeremy.trevathan@btinternet.com Cc: echristian@webtv.net Subject: Fwd: EstherAnn Greeting Andree,   

I hope that Jeremy will give you the gist of this email from Greg's friend in California. I had not been able to get in touch with her, but I have the impression that she has a cousin in Florida and this may in some way have led to her going to the Mayo Clinic facility in Florida for treatment..I think that is where this is. I just got back from a library meeting in Chicago that I really enjoyed. I learned about a "sister library" program the US government is promoting...and looks like something I could manage to promote in a couple of years when I get emeritus status on retirement....and in traveling could have a connection just about anywhere.

My paper was in the international poster paper section, I got a "mentee" ..sort of connection the ALA international office was making with librarians from other countries...neat gal from Jamaica...and then photographed everybody I could at the international events, climaxed by the reception in the Chicago Public Library... beautiful new downtown library....Had alreqady spent a day in it....Actually the British took up a collection of books to get a public library service going in Chicago after the "fire"...and there is one there (actually her husband's biography) contributed by Queen V...

They wrote they may use some of my photos in their publications...a real rurnone for me....as I got a kick out of all those candid photos. If it were a "job" it would probably a real drag.

Chicago is a fantastic city. Stayed in a hostel that is really a college form...interesting times with an Australian gal and couple from NZ...late evening of talk..a totally paranoid US lady ...another 2 hours of very different listening...and then a return to religious roots when a rather scraggy male librarian doing cataloging and archival stuff in Minnesota and looking for a grant...we talked 3 different times...until I met him the fourth on our way home..Midway....and a mention of the Maori -English NZ prayer book...let to the fact that he was an active Episopal layman.....and a totally different discussion before I left for Atlanta..

I do not know if this is the kind of letter I should be sending. I hope that Jeremy will give me some advice as to what you can handle right now.

That you are writing so soon after your stroke sounds really good. I had a long talk with my library director whose husband had a stroke and learned that the people at Emory had said he would make no more progress after 6 months....he then went to a speech therapy program at Georgia State University (attached to a school of education, not a medical school)...and now unleess you knew he had had a stroke, in general conversation you would not know.

I asked her about using a computer and she said he could not do that, he could not even spell, and they have worked out a chart to he can pick out telephone number s to dial. Wondering about you led me to the kind of conversation we had never had.

Of course each person is so different...one person's experience is not another's.

Long letter.....maybe too much. Best wishes, Lizzie....yes, Lizzie

AND TO SON JEREMY

   Message From: echristian@webtv.net (Elizabeth Christian) Date: Sun, Jul 16, 2000, 3:26pm To: jeremy.trevathan@btinternet.com Cc: echristian@webtv.net Subject: Letter to Andree/Sandra

I just sent this lenghty letter...this is how I write, kind of wear people down, I suspect...to your mother via you...and suspect it is "too much"..

It would be helpful if you would send me a sample of the kind of letter that would be useful to your mother. Is vocabulary an issues, complicated ideas..should I write about things simple like the weather, or what ? Does she want to hear about the past ?

As you can see I had a really great time in Chicago and hope to go back with my adult daughter...stay in the hostel again...and do a museum of the day....The waterfront, the energy of the people, building going on...and the absolute "polished brass" character of the old famous buildings is wonderful. Thanks for passing this on to your mother,, in whatever form you see fit. Elizabeth

   Message From: echristian@webtv.net (Elizabeth Christian) Date: Sun, Jul 16, 2000, 3:55pm To: jameses@freewwweb.com Cc: echristian@webtv.net Subject: This is for Esther Ann Hi Greg..

Just got what sounded like good news from your friend in California. Send me a telephone number and I will call.

I assume that your cousin was instrumental in your chosing a Florida hospital...but do not know. Odd...someone you have not known anything about for 40 years, and all of a certain wanting to know what's going on.

I won't bore you with all the stuff about libraries...other than to say the Americahn Library Association meeting was great...they may use my candid photographs of international librarians in some publications...and I LOVED the Chicago I saw...downtown by the water. Great hostel experience....Am still a bit on a "high" from the meeting....

Eden, Rob and the twins left me after 4 days travel up through West Virgina and Ohio...at the Detroit train station..Union State in Chicago was wonderful....in bed by midnight at the hostel....and ...well, it was just great.

Your friend wrote the news was good, but I know you have pain and a lot of other stuff to go through. Thinking of you, Elizabeth

TELEPHONE CONVERSATION WITH GREG JULY 25 OR THEREABOUTS 2000

I had gotten an email from her cousin's daughter saying she had gotten through the operation at Mayo and was in a nuring home..and her telephone number....

So..I called...

She said how terrible the NH was..but that she had great physical therapists. Her cousin lives with daughters and their nonworking husbands nearby so there is an extended family. Her 87 year old mother is there....She has only so many days in the NS..then she and her mother will stay in a motel on the Mayo grounds..until she has her final exam..and if all is well..she will go home..back to Los Angeles.

She said they would try to get her job back for her...but she did not want to do that..

When she talked about her granddaughters she cried..the husband, their father...making things very hard for her to see them....she actually got to seem them by going to their school to read Harry Potter....Spoke of his girlfriend wantng to send the girls there and her mother saying she could not handle them....

Will the tests give her a clean bill of health ? That s the question....

I HEAR FROM SON JEREMY ...GOOD NEWS ABOUT ANDREE

   Message From: echristian@webtv.net (Elizabeth Christian) Date: Sat, Aug 12, 2000, 9:32am To: Jeremy.Trevathan@btinternet.com (Jeremy Trevathan) Cc: echristian@webtv.net Subject: What good news

I think that postcards would be a better idea..If you would just send an address...

Tell your mother that I talked to Greg last week..Her surgery seems to have gone well for the spinal cancer, she was in a nursing home for rehabilitation, and expects..it all goes well to be back at Mayo with her mother in a guest house until they give her the word she can go back to Los Angeles.

I have an email address for her cousin. Greg had just gotten an email address before it all happened. I will forward your email to Greg's cousin's address

as he is getting information to her. Thanks for writing... Elizabeth

From:    "Jeremy Trevathan" To:    "Elizabeth Christian" Subject:    Re:

Letter to Andree/Sandra Date:    Fri, Aug 11, 2000, 5:46am (EDT+5) X-Priority:    3 X-MSMail-Priority:    Normal

Dear Elizabeth- Many apologies for not repying sooner. Things have moved on since I was last in touch.

When you sent your last email I had just returned from vacation, and the doctors had announced that they felt Mom had progressed so well that rather than residential care, as they were planning, they felt she could go home. As you can imagine this was great news but needed lots of organizing. She's now home and having day care.

She's so delighted that I think it's having even better results for her health, so we're keeping fingers crossed. She's been back just over 2 weeks and took delivery of her cat this last Monday... I'm seeing her this Sunday so I'll take your letter to her and see if we can get a reply...

Thanks very much Jeremy

----- Original Message ----- From: "Elizabeth Christian" To: Cc: Sent: 16 July 2000 20:26 Subject: Letter to Andree/Sandra I just sent this lenghty letter...this is how I write, kind of wear people down, I suspect...to your mother via you...and suspect it is "too much".. It would be helpful if you would send me a sample of the kind of letter that would be useful to your mother. Is vocabulary an issues, complicated ideas..should I write about things simple like the weather, or what ? Does she want to hear about the past ? As you can see I had a really great time in Chicago and hope to go back with my adult daughter...stay in the hostel again...and do a museum of the day....The waterfront, the energy of the people, building going on...and the absolute "polished brass" character of the old famous buildings is wonderful. Thanks for passing this on to your mother,, in whatever form you see fit. Elizabeth

From: echristian@webtv.net (Elizabeth Christian) Date: Thu, Sep 7, 2000, 3:58pm To: beverly@mediabase.premrad.com (Campbell, Beverly) Cc: echristian@webtv.net Subject: Re: Esther Ann Memorial What a shock. Thank you for writing to me. I am so very glad that I had those few oppportunities to talk to her and write to her. She was so concerned about her granddaughters. The only time she cried when she talked to me was when she spoke of them. I know her mother is heartbroken.

There would be support for a memorial at St. Mary's where she passed so many years of her life, in case you are interested in my pursing it. She went as a very young student in the 6th grade and graduated at a very, very young age.

If there is a chance the girls could make contact and develop some kind of relationship with my own twin grandchildren through email it might be a very nice thing.

And thank you for being the person that brought us together these last months.

In sorrow, Elizabeth

From:    "Campbell, Beverly" To:    "'echristian@webtv.net'" Subject:    Esther Ann Memorial Date:    Thu, Sep 7, 2000, 10:48am (EDT-3) Hello -

      Hope I have remembered your email address correctly. I heard that Esther Ann passed away a week ago Sunday. We were all very surprised - she sounded great the last times I heard from her by phone - so strong and positive. I think she was my best friend - what a woman!

      I don't have any details about any of this - do you? I'm trying to get her mother's address so I can send a card, also wondering if there will be a memorial anywhere I can attend. My daughter, age 8, has shed many tears for our dear friend, her godmother.         Thanks -        Beverly Campbell                   beverly@mmr247.com

MORE FROM PHYLLIS

Mail message Help From: treetops@care2.com (phyllis hetrick-bennett) Date: Sun, Sep 3, 2000, 8:59pm (EDT-1) To: echristian@webtv.net Subject: Re: Forwarding a letter from Jeremy Trevathan

Dear Liz,   I'm alive and reasonably well and send apologies for not getting to you sooner.

                I'm on the run now, but I will be in touch again soon. The attachment was labeled "UNKNOWN." so I didn't see the letters.               This Care2 doesn't handle attachments well, obviously, so I have an alternate E-mail:   .    

          The video Soapie has "St. Mary's Memories", done for the 100th anniv. of the founding of SMS was not shot by me. I collected and compiled pictures from a variety of sources: some of Sr. Christabel's 1960's (!) slides,   some from pages of year books, some from students including me, etc. Then a firm in Chattanooga put the whole thing on video tape. It's silent (except one version has music selected by Sally Buck McCrady) but there are titles.

  I could get a copy for you, or better yet when you come to visit me we'll watch it. I have a list of the photos with identifications and source.

                                I was a photographer as a student and still have my 616 Kodak with the bellows. You may remember that I developed film in the St. E lab and St. Anne's kitchen. But that activity was abandoned when I went to college. Unhappily my modern camera was stolen from a motel last year at a Trail of Tears conference.

                              MANY THANKS for your generous invitation to visit you in your condo in Atlanta. The last time we were there was to hear Jerry Garcia and Grateful Dead in spring of 95 or 6 (the year he died). We spent the weekend at a motel near the air port which offered free shuttle to the subway. It was such fun that I'd like to visit Atlanta again and especially to HUG YOU.                               I've been busy with an antifluoridation campaign and lately with NADER/LADUKE campaign.   But more on all this later.   I do love you, Liz.

Memories warm my heart.     Please forgive my neglect.

    Barlow

Care2 make the world greener !

PHYLLIS AGAIN

Delivered-To:    echristian@webtv.net X-Originating-IP:    [152.97.40.223] From:    "phyllis hetrick-bennett" To:    echristian@webtv.net Subject:    Re: more sad news Date:    Sat, Sep 16, 2000, 3:20pm (EDT-1) X-OriginalArrivalTime:    16 Sep 2000 20:20:01.0127 (UTC) FILETIME=[7DB00F70:01C0201B] Many thanks for prompt reply. I would like to have her cousin's e-mail. SAS wants to do an obit.

                Lundie is at home. Considering an experimental protocol that means radiation 5 days a week for 5 weeks as opposed to chemo.   Terri will stay with her.     I'll keep you posted.                                                                             Love, Barlow From: echristian@webtv.net (Elizabeth Christian)

To: sherwood3239@hotmail.com (phyllis hetrick-bennett)

Subject: Re: more sad news Date: Wed, 13 Sep 2000 23:00:59 -0400 (EDT) I don't have any more informatioj about Greg, but have her cousin's email address. Her close friend in Los Angeles wants to get in touch with her mother, who is 87 and was with her. The cousin has not answered me, but I will try again in a few days. Greg seems to have had only a daughter who died about seven years ago.

I am sorry to hear about Lundie, but glad the surgery went well.

Thank you for writing. Elizabeth __________

MY OWN REPLY September 18, 2000

This is the address for Greg's cousin in Florida. I hope that he will respond. It would be helpful to get her mother's address so that we might send a card.

Greg had a close friend in Los Angeles (I will forward your email to her) who seems to have been close to her, who could probably povide information.

We talked briefly about jobs in our two conversations..when you try to summarize the past 40 years....you know how it is..

Seems she spent some time in Princeton working with the testing service there (they would have information I suppose) and went to California..probably, I suspect, to be near her granddaughers, who were very much the focus of her life at the end (I have photographs..actually a very good on of Greg I could copy and put on the net)...They are twin 7 year old girls.

She described finding a job for special ed (don't think she had done this before).and in the interview she was essentially asked, can you start this afternoon. I don't think it was a career focus, but I got the impression that she was working with a very diffcult situation, and I am sure doing it well.

I was so looking forward to our sharing some emails, even visits...It only goes to say ....trite as it is...we must make the most of the time we have...I am sure your experiences recently are confirming this.

Work tonight, why I can write this morning.

I am still trying to deal with the idea of retirement. It sounds like you have been able to carry so many of your work experiences over.

Later, Elizabeth

Mail message Help From: sherwood3239@hotmail.com (phyllis hetrick-bennett) Date: Sun, Oct 1, 2000, 7:41pm (EDT-1) To: echristian@webtv.net Subject: Fwd: (no subject) Hi Elizabeth,

thought you might be interested in this. Zaca, I               assume, is with Andre in Oxford. She left NY on the               28th. I remain busy with the Green Party campaign.

Too bad Georgia made it impossible for Nader/LaDuke to appear on the ballot. Also Fluoride and replacing windows in the guest room. How is your schedule these days.   Think Green. Phyllis

From: Lundie Lenoir To:   Phyllis Hetrick-Bennett Subject: note from Lundie's daughter Date: Thu, 28 Sep 2000 19:33:32 -0400

Just an update to everybody on my mom's condition/situation at the moment!

Radiation treatments and experimental protocol treatments utilizing chemotherapy agents but not in the true chemotherapy format begin on Monday, 10/2. According to the radiologist, the MRI did not show any change in the remaining tumor material following the surgery; i.e., it doesn't seem to have regrown anywhere.

This kind of news is always to be tempered with the realization that microscopic "fingers" of tumor material can be growing without being realized on an MRI study. Still, I was particularly gratified to learn that it hadn't suddenly begun an aggressive regrowth immediately! My mom has a great attitude about it all. She has to wear a very specially designed mesh mask and lie on the radiation table for about 15-20 minutes. The protocol treatment basically consists of blood work daily the first week of radiation treatment and then once weekly thereafter, with the ingestion of a pill containing the chemotherapy drug which is not being used in its normal chemotherapy role. There aren't supposed to be the usual side effects from chemotherapy with the use of the chemotherapy pill.

The main complaint of my mom now is her eyesight, which really seems to be worsening, in her view. I suggested a trip to the optometrist for perhaps a stronger magnification prescription. This deficit is particularly troubling to her, as the doctors haven't offered a lot of hope that this particular side effect from the tumor will be resolved with the radiation treatments. I'm sure she was particularly hoping for a return of her vision with regard to the piano, as well.

I will be going back to New Hampshire on Saturday for a quick trip to reconnect with kids and husband. I'll return to North Carolina on Tuesday, the 3rd. My mother's brother, Charles, and his wife will be taking my mom to her radiation treatments in Winston until I return. Thereafter, I'm hoping to return periodically, over some weekends, during the radiation treatment, depending on adequate coverage for my mother's trips to Winston and her reaction to the radiation treatments.

Well, that's it for now! This is just a generic letter to several of you. I'll try to make it a more personal one the next time, upon my return!!

Terry

THEN I GOT A LETTER IN EARLY JANUARY FROM ZACA

(my reply is included.)

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From: echristian@webtv.net (Elizabeth Christian) Date: Wed, Jan 3, 2001, 11:42pm To: Dougging@aol.com Cc: echristian@webtv.net Subject: Re: Greetings What wonderful news about Sandy. I have a couple of emails from Greg from earlier in the year which I stored and will share with you. A year ago I had found her address through Switchboard, sent her a letter, and then received an email message from a friend of hers. Then we talked on the telephone and Greg caught me up with information over all of those years. She was teaching near Los Angeles. She had seven year old twin granddaughters, and all she told me was that her daughter died shortly after they were born. I don't know what happened, but their father was living in California and Greg wanted to be near them. It seems that she worked at Princeton with the testing service for quite a long time and special ed teaching was something new. Her friend Bev commented later how good she was at it, and seems she was completing a second masters degree with a concentration in this area. Greg got her own email address, and then in early spring, she wrote me of the cancer diagnosis...lung and spine. Her HMO doctor had not found it .. Her HMO Kaiser would not offer treatment, but her cousin in Florida arranged for her to come there for an operation at Mayo. She had therapy in a nursing home, and was looking forward to returning to California when she simply did not make it. I talked to her about a week before and she was looking forward to going back to the girls. She was concerned about them and the educational future their father would provide. Her friend Bev, who had been my original email contact, sent me a kind of autobiography that Greg left...I stored it and will share it with you. Bev wanted to know about a memorial, but neither she nor I received information about her mother, who had been with her from the cousin in Florida. At the same time I made contact with Greg I started surfing....found Andre Trevethan's email address and he sent me her son's email address...with no comment. It was only from Jeremy that I learned about Sandra's stroke. I am so very glad to hear that she is making a recovery. I have reached the point that I favor email over writing, and am not very good about paper correspondence. I will find the things that I had stored and forward them to you. So sad. Greg was really concerned about the girls. I don't know what would be involved in getting in touch with their father and them, but I sense that Greg would have liked the girls to know her friends. Bev is really the only contact, but I do not think she has had an easy time staying in touch. Well, this has been very long letter. I am glad to receive the good news about Sandy and will stay in touch. Elizabeth - Lizzie Delivered-To:    echristian@webtv.net From:    Dougging@aol.com Date:    Wed, Jan 3, 2001, 10:41pm Subject:    Greetings To:    echristian@webtv.net 3 January 2001 Dear Lizzie,           Hope you received the postcard Sandy and I sent you in October.   She was so happy to have had your card. She seems to be recovering from the stroke. After one has been in the hospital several months it's a big adjustment to step back into your old life. Sandra said she was so thrilled to realize she could still read. She'd thought she couldn't because her speech was affected by the stroke. She has a fair amount of help from the British health system in coping with being home and Jeremy and Stephen are in London.             We wanted to know what had happened to Greg. We know she died in California but that is all. Can you let us know anything more or her daughter's name and address?             How are you and your family?             Before I went to see Sandra I went to Sewanee for our class' 50th reunion. It was fun and we had seven or eight members of the class there. Barlow had a party at her house for us. Do you ever go back?               I'm at my youngest daughter's home in Bethesda helping her take care of a new baby. Her email is dougging@aol.com.               Wishing you and your family a Happy 2001.       Love, Zaca (Virgie Johnston)

ZACA WROTE TO ME ABOUT THE LAST TIME THAT SHE SAW GREG.SAD THAT THEY DID NOT STAY IN TOUCH

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From: Dougging@aol.com Date: Sun, Jan 7, 2001, 1:51pm To: echristian@webtv.net Subject: Thank You!

7 January 2001 Dear Lizzie,

          Thank you so much for sending your breathtaking and sad record of the last months of Greg's life. What a tragedy for those twin grandchildren. It doesn't sound as though her son-in-law would be happy to see any of her friends.

          The last time I saw Greg was in the Village 1955 or 1956. Her daughter was a baby. Jim Pendry, her husband, was a little over the edge and threatened Greg with a butcher knife. There was a custody hearing and Mimi's husband, Frank Rosenbach, went to court to testify on Greg's behalf. She and Jim were both on pot. Frank testified that Greg would be the more stable parent and he certainly was correct about that, wasn't he? I don't know what ever happened to Jim Pendry. I never saw Greg again after she left the Village.

            What she accomplished was wonderful! I'll mail these papers to Sandra. We can at least think of a memorial to Greg in Sewanee. It's sad that she died with so much left that she wanted to do.     Is your fiftieth reuniion coming up next year? I don't know if Sandra would be able to make it or not. Do you plan to go?

How are you and your family?

            We're still enjoying trying to wake Douglas up during the day so he can sleep at night!

              Love, Virgie

I'll be here another month.

Mail message From: sherwood3239@hotmail.com (phyllis hetrick-bennett) Date: Wed, Jan 31, 2001, 6:44pm (EST-1) To: eChristian@webtv.net Subject: Fwd: Greetings to Phyllis and Jack HAPPY NEW YEAR TO YOU, TOO.     I'm overwhelmed with obligations and     health concerns. I have not forgotten your message about Zaca's e-mail (i.e. now Virgie).   Fri. I go in for MiraLuma, a procedure which used radioactive dye to find cancer cells, for me in the right breast - problematic. Have had 2 surguries on it in the past.   The "spring offensive" on our anti-fluoridation campaign is heating up.     I don't own a computer and library was closed for long Xmas break - so I'm way behind in correspondence (as you will know), and will be for awhile.   How are plans for your 50th reunion coming along?       One of these days you'll hear from me again. I promise.   Barlow From: Dougging@aol.com To: sherwood3239@hotmail.com Subject: Greetings to Phyllis and Jack Date: Wed, 31 Jan 2001 13:13:44 EST 31 January 2001 Dear Barlow,             Here I am still living as a gypsy and acting like one too. Not a very good keeper -in- toucher. I'm at Ginger's now in Bethesda. Douglas, the new baby is now two months old and just beginning to sleep some when we do. He's becoming round and is growing, smiling and talking. He's a delight.     Being at home most of the time we've been fascinated by Kevin Burns' history of jazz'. We also watched the Superbowl   and all of the games leading up to it.             I hope you're feeling well.             Shortly, with the sun brightly shining, I am going to try to reach Georgetown on the Capital Crescent Trail. Ginger and the little one are having lunch with other new mothers. We haven't been able to get Douglas into an infant care center so I will take care of him Feb. 28-Mar. 17th. He's in one for June, signed up soon after Ginger became pregnant! We're hoping they will come through for April and May.             Is there news from Lundie? Where is she?   Should I write her or email her?             Lizzie Christian send me all that she has learned of Greg. Greg did amaziing things with her life. Lizzie is trying to get a copy of her novel held by Goddard College.             I've just had an email from Sandra's son Jeremy and he is taking very good care of her. She' s bored staying at home now and still improving. She needs a comfortable chair and when that's taken care of he'll see about getting her on the internet.             Please let me know what yoou're doing.        Love to you and Jack, Virgie ______________________________________________ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com


St. Mary's Correspondence

Email from Phyllis Hettrick: She describes work on the history of St. M., St. Christabel's slides, her own environmental activism, and St. Mary's photography